In order to get through your divorce, you'll need to make a number of important decisions. Unfortunately, a lot of them will be difficult to make — especially if you don't possess a significant amount of ill will toward your spouse. It's important to talk to your divorce attorney about any struggles that you're having when it comes to making any decision. He or she will gently point out details that you might not have considered, and provide options to you based on how other clients have proceeded in the past. When you're attempting to make difficult decisions, here are some tips to keep in mind.
Try To Leave Emotion Out
It's possible that you're extremely upset with your spouse at this point, and even if it feels as though you'll hold onto this feeling forever, the reality is that it will probably fade in time. It might be tempting to make a decision based on how you feel in this moment, but you might eventually regret it — and have to eventually reopen your divorce case to get something changed. Try to make decisions without your emotions getting the better of you, and don't be afraid to ask your divorce attorney to assess your decision making.
Think About Your Children
Decision making during a divorce is even more important when you have children. It's imperative to always be considering their best interests. For example, you might not want to share custody of your children because you know that you'll find comfort in having them with you around the clock during this difficult time. This is an example of think about yourself, however, rather than about your kids. If you honestly know that sharing custody will benefit them the most, you should lean this direction.
Don't Get Greedy
A divorce can cause people to get greedy for a number of reasons — including some that might feel appropriate at this time. For example, if your spouse made a lot of money but rarely spent it on things that you enjoyed, it can be tempting to let greed take over now. You may want to ask for more in alimony than you'd reasonably be able to spend, and it's possible that the judge could side with you upon assessing your family's financial picture. Being greedy might be exciting at the time, but rarely feels good in the long run, however, and it's best to avoid making decisions from this perspective.